How to Help You Child Make Friends

Children are generally very adventurous, curious and friendly. They love to talk and play with other children their age. However, not all children are so open and sociable. There are kids that are shy and nervous when they are around other people and it is harder for them to make friends. Children that feel uneasy around other children and like to keep to themselves end up being unpopular and often ridiculed by their peers. Very often this behaviour can be seen as early as kindergarten, which then continues throughout their school years. Not being able to make friends, they are labelled as unpopular and unwanted by others. But is there a way for parents to help their children?


First of all, wanting your child to be popular is not just about popularity. According to some studies, popular children have a better perspective of themselves and are more confident and have great social skills. Being among popular kids can help your child be the best that they can be. It is not just a popularity contest, but also a tool for better development and growth into maturity. Acquiring the necessary skills will help them get what they want in life. You should always support and respectyour child’s wishes, but sometimes they cannot see far enough. So here are some ideas that might help you get the message across and your child tobecome an integrated individual.

Work on Social Skills

Social skills are very important. Research has shown that in adulthood we are prone to trusting people who are eloquent and confident while they are talking. This starts from a young age. If your child is having difficulty making or keeping friends, talk to them about positive behaviour and encourage them, instead of giving negative feedback. Positive reinforcement is the most helpful way of teaching your child what is proper behaviour.

Resolving Crises

Children learn what behaviour is acceptable and what is not through trial and error. There will be times when they will misbehave. Observe how your child reacts when something happens, good or bad. Negative as well as positive reactions should not be overdone. Just like your child should not throw tantrums because they are unhappy, they should not boast and brag in other situations. Again, use positive reinforcement for adequate behaviour and patiently explain why overreacting is not acceptable.

Throwing a Party

The easiest way to get other children to pay attention to your child is by throwing the best birthday party. It will give them something to talk about, and your child will enjoy the attention. Organizing an original party has never been easier. You can help your child with their reputation by throwing superhero or army party and inviting all other popular kids, so they can get a chance to meet, hang out and get to know your child where they feel relaxed and in control.

Take Up a Sport or a Hobby

Children are very energetic, and that energy should be well spent. If your child is finding it hard to connect with kids from their school, taking up a sport might be the best solution. Here they will have a common interest and will spend time together on a regular basis, which may prove useful. This can be applied to anything, not just sports. Common interests set a good basis for developing communication, and your child will find it easier to talk to and initiate conversation.

Patience is the key to success. Keep in mind that your child is growing and that it will take time for them to fully understand and implement what you are trying to teach them. You child should not feel pressured into something they do not feel like. The best thing is to be supportive and understanding, and step in only when they really need your help.

Tracey Clayton is a full time mom of three girls. She loves cooking, baking, sewing, spending quality time with her daughters and she’s passionate in writing. Her motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.